BEING PREPARED FOR MOTHERHOOD

Mentally it is easy to be prepared for the new changes that will be coming your way. You have about nine to ten months to mentally prepare for this tiny human. You have gathered as much baby information you can from the internet and books, and by now you think you got this in the bag. The first eight months of pregnancy all you can think of is - Can't wait to buy baby clothes, can't wait to style your babies nursery room and can't wait to play dress up with your baby while the husband is at work and send him cute pictures of the baby. Can't wait to go on adventures and discover new cafes, and can't wait to do all these fun activities.

All the sudden in a blink of an eye, your water has broken and you're rushed to the hospital and a few hours later you hear your babies first little cry and the relief feeling you get after giving birth are words I cannot explain. Everything you mentally prepared for this very moment has gone out of the window, and reality has walked straight into the door. You have all these emotions rushing through you - overwhelmed, excited, anxious and exhausted. The first couple of months is not what you expected it to be, you have realised there is a lot of physical and mental changes you need to change in your life. You're no longer able to do some of the things you used to do, a undisturbed sleep does not exist anymore and the swelling in your boobs is so painful you can't move your arms.

Entering motherhood I have noticed there is so much judgement and disagreement on how you raise your child, what type of food you give to your child and what you truly believe is best for your child. Not only do you get judged by other parents, you also get judged by people who don't even have kids themselves. Being told that your doing it all wrong isn't a nice feeling, because all you want is what's best for your child. It can really put someone down, it can make someone hate themselves and make them question are they good enough - Let me tell you, you're good enough. You became a mother for a reason, your child is YOUR child for a reason and your child will love you no matter what. Support one another because the end of the day we are most likely going through the same thing with our child, and we all know what it is like or how it can be like when having a child.

DISCLAIMER - I am not trying to say this is how motherhood is truly like, what I have written and shared with you is what I have gone through myself.