THE MUMMY GUILT!

The kids are in bed sound asleep and my partner is snoring in my ear, as for me I keep tossing and turning and wide awake. As I lay here wide awake, the mummy guilt starts slipping in.

Feeling guilty because I allow the kids to co-sleep

Feeling guilty because I felt like I could of been more engaging towards the kids today

Feeling guilty because I felt like I yelled at the kids too much today

Feeling guilty because I allowed too much tv time

Feeling guilty because I felt like we didn't spend enough time outdoors

Feeling guilty because I feel like I haven't given the kids enough fruit today

Feeling guilt because I gave my son hot chips for lunch today

Feeling guilty because I know we could of done more fun activities today

Feeling guilty because we were indoors too much today

Feeling guilty because I forgot to bathe the kids tonight

Feeling guilty because I don't know many recipes and keep making the same thing

Feeling guilty because I felt like I didn't breastfed Evelyn enough tonight

Feeling guilty because the dishes aren't packed but I am too tired to get up

Feeling guilty because I didn't do the washing today

Feeling guilty because I forgot to vacuum before the kids went to bed

Feeling guilty for having a bath while my partner is taking care of the kids

Feeling guilty because it's 10am and the kids are still in their PJ's

Feeling guilty for something I done days, weeks or months ago

Feeling guilty because I am too exhausted from today and not wanting to be affectionate with my partner

EXAMPLE - My partner and I plan to have a romantic date night for a few months now, and so far we haven't been on one - there has been two occasions where we have been away from the kids, and that was to watch a fight show because my partners friend was in the show - so you can imagine it wasn't romantic night away. The thought of being away from my kids, makes me feel anxious. Even when I am away from them for 30 minutes, I still feel anxious. I then feel guilty for whoever is babysitting my kids, because I am sure they have other things to do. To avoid feeling anxious when leaving my kids, I stopped dreaming and wanting date night. People have offered to take care of the kids, because they think date night is important to have once in a while but I just can't.

Every time I am having a mummy guilt moment my partner would always tell me that I do, do enough for the kids and I am a great mum to our kids and my responses is always "no, no no you don't understand - blah blah" or I would simply can't get over of the mummy guilt and ignore what he said in total. Will the mummy guilt be something I will forever feel or will there be a stage where I will no longer feel it? I know it's not a bad thing to feel, but sometimes it's not the greatest feeling.

If anyone has any tips on overcoming the mummy guilt, feel free to send me a message and I would love to hear some of your advices!